[Christian] Rudder’s talk at the Empiricist League borrowed from the book’s first chapter, covering the basics of whom we’re attracted to and why. Accompanied by a slideshow, he brought up a chart of how straight women rate the men on OKCupid based on their age. “Women who are, say, 28 find guys who are also 28 about the most attractive, and so forth. Up until about 40, when that’s getting too old.

And then Rudder delivered the punchline. “And the male version is … ”


Later, somebody in the crowd shouted a question: “Could you point to an age at which, for a woman, it’s not even worth signing up?” Laughter again.


Rudder: “From the time you’re 22 you’ll be less hot than a 20-year-old, based on this data. So that’s just a thing.

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These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.

Why it’s so hard for men to see misogyny (via ethiopienne)

Its hard for men to understand why women dont get loud & angry because they havent spent their entire lives being reprimanded whenever they take up too much space. (via pluralfloral)

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in movies, whenever a hot guy fake-flirts with an “ugly” girl and she gets all flustered, it’s intended to be a funny joke and make u think the girl is pathetic for believing such an attractive man could be interested in her. ur supposed to hate the girl.

but whenever a hot girl fake-flirts with an ugly guy and he gets all flustered, it’s intended to make u feel bad for the guy and think the girl is a Bitch. ur supposed to hate the girl.

ur always supposed to hate the girl.

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When you’re warm and (almost) safe but not yet home, on your way
After a long night of drinking and thinking and trying and people’s promises

Close your eyes and imagine a world where life is easy, always will be, if you try just hard enough,
So easy to see, so easy to imagine, this place where all is right, when you’re almost home but not quite yet

If you fall asleep now you’ll never get home

The names of the city passing by and passing through you
Thinking your words are your own choice

If you fall asleep now you’ll never make it home
You just saw the party from the inside, and it’s how you though it would be but not like it should feel

Happiness by default might just be the right kind


I don’t think writers realize that “strong female character” means “well written female character” and not “female character who punches stuff and shoots stuff”

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…even a top-billed star of a successful female-centric franchise is not even safe from being removed from her own franchise to make room for the guy.
Forbes discusses Snow White & the Huntsman sequel, which won’t include Snow White  (via thelilysparks)
Game of Thrones with my sister’s playmobils

Game of Thrones with my sister’s playmobils

There’s a paradox in thinking that you’re better than other girls, when your whole reason for feeling that way is because you think your gender is so inherently inferior that you want to dis-identify with being a girl altogether.

More Than Words: Tomboys R Us

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